#METOO: Sharifa Stevens

We need to quit the culture of robbery. Teach your boys that women are people—and then live what you teach. Demonstrate that women are people—and their bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit—in how you talk to your boys (consider the implications of saying that your boy cries, throws, or runs "like a girl"). Praise self-control to both boys and girls. Expect self-control from boys and men, as well as women and girls.

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#METOO: Tiffany Ashenfelter, Licensed Professional Counselor

As a licensed therapist, I have built my practice on working with women; teens, college students, young professionals, working moms, stay at home moms, empty-nesters, even grandmothers. The stories of abuse, degradation, fear, silence and shame are an ever-present theme in my office. When I hear their stories I often see accompanying questions in their eyes “will you believe me?”, “will you judge me or blame me?”, “am I safe here?” So what can we do for or say to someone who has experienced abuse or harassment? How can we be a part of changing the conversation and changing our culture?

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#METOO: (I’ve objectified women).

Me too.

But not in the way you think.

Me too–I’ve objectified women.

It’s surprisingly terrifying to say this out loud, to type it in black and white. I’m afraid of being branded a “pervert;” I’m afraid that people I care about will feel uncomfortable being around me.

But I’m even more terrified of nothing ever changing.

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#METOO: Dr. Sandra Glahn

I asked my friend Sandi to weigh in on the #metoo and I want you to see her credentials before reading our conversation.

Dr. Sandra Glahn  , Associate Professor of Media Arts and Worship at Dallas Theological Seminary, BA, ThM, PhD. Dr. Glahn is a multi-published author of both fiction and non-fiction, a journalist, and a speaker who advocates for thinking that transforms, especially on topics relating to art, gender, sexual intimacy in marriage, and first-century backgrounds as they relate to gender. Dr. Glahn’s more than twenty books relate to bioethics, sexuality, and reproductive technologies as well as ten Bible studies in the Coffee Cup Bible Study series. She is a regular blogger at Engage, bible.org’s site for women in Christian leadership, the owner of Aspire Productions, and served as editor-in-chief for Kindred Spirit from 2008 to 2016.

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#METOO: A Survivor's Story (Anonymous)

I met him when I was in my early 20s. He was in his early 30s and it didn't take long for us to go from acquaintances to dating to marriage. A few months in to the relationship, he started pointing out to me that I struggled with communication. He said I tended to be selfish and interrupted him. I was embarrassed and tried really hard to pay attention to this and change. But it seemed like the harder I tried, the more frustrated he was at my poor communication or something else. He started needing me to be readily accessible. The more frequently he needed me to answer his phone call or respond to a text message, the more opportunity there was for me to miss a message from him. When that happened, I would be scolded and criticized, so when I wasn't with him, if possible, I tried to keep my ringer on and have my phone in front of me. However, I would still miss his communication at times and the scolding grew to screaming, the criticism to cursing. I continued to be a poor communicator in his eyes and in addition to being told I was a poor communicator, I started being told I was a poor decision maker. Every day, sometimes multiple times a day, he called me an idiot. With tears, I asked him to stop, but he just told me that he wouldn't call me an idiot if I would stop acting idiotically.

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#METOO: Part 1

The progress we've made to dignify women as image bearers is not enough. This was on repeat in my brain last week like a mantra. The progress we've made to dignify women as image bearers is not enough. The progress we've made to dignify women as image bearers is not enough.

So, I went to Facebook and posted:

Maybe it's the one year anniversary of 45’s tapes dropping or the Lecrae concert or #metoo trending or Weinstein or that it's Domestic Violence Awareness Month or that I am reading Genesis 14-19 in message prep mode, but I am beyond fed up with misogyny. I'm done. I'm so done. And I'm undone. 
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Four Fathers

Last week, Caleb interrupted Justin Bieber's Latin melody on the radio for a declaration: "I have a really good daddy." I cleared my throat to get out the words, "You sure do Caleb. You sure do." Caleb has a really good daddy, so tonight we celebrate with all the meats the Brazilian steakhouse can skewer.

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Kat Armstrong
I share his dream

It would be fatal for the nation and our churches to overlook the urgency of the moment and to underestimate the determination of all justice seekers. Two thousand seventeen is not an end, but a beginning.

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Daddy's Girl

My dad loved to tell jokes. My brother Matt and I heard the same jokes over and over and over on road trips and social gatherings. All. The. Time. We would just look at each other and roll our eyes. But the truth is my father never told an off color joke, and his humor brought joy to everyone around him. 

I think he'd want me to start his funeral message with a joke to break the ice, but I'm very sad, really nervous, and thinking my attempt at humor today will not land. 

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Part 13: Bread of Life

I can remember the carb loaded plate of pasta and the cheap hotel wine I was enjoying in Nashville in 2015 when I first opened my Bible to look up the word bread. I went straight to John 6 with my spiritual hunger and tears streamed down my face as I read Jesus' words about himself as the Living Bread.

That moment was the catalyst for this whole I.love.carbs bible study. So the build up to this lesson is a tad intimidating because how can I fit into one blog post the work the Holy Spirit has done in my heart to heal me of spiritual hunger?? How?? The best way is to offer up the verses that have been so life changing for me. This is Jesus speaking to the same crowd that had just had their bellies filled with the 5 loaves of bread and two fish...

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Part 12: Hungry People

My 3 year old son, Caleb, is really good at sharing food. Which is proof that kids can break free from the bad habits of their parents. You see I don't like sharing food, especially dessert because my desserts are always carb full and I.love.carbs. 

When our food supply is limited we create strategies to conserve don't we? Here's the thing about the one true living God: his food supply is unlimited. He radicalized bread sharing in the passages we are going to look at today...

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Part 11: Daily Bread

The low-carb-diet-craze has trained us to give bread the side-eye of distrust. Bread baskets and chip bowls are now associated, for many, as a tempting indulgence. I reject this crazy. And I'm fully aware of my GF friends who simply cannot enjoy many gluten rich carbs that bring me such joy. This is a result of the fall. And I grieve with you. Our bodies are broken in many ways, and I for one am still mad at Eve for her rebellion in the garden as it relates to food and more specifically the messed up way we try to control our diets...

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Part 10: Croissant Temptation

After an intense workout, I used to reward my efforts with a visit to the Village Baking Co. in Dallas to get a ham and cheese croissant. It’s by far the best French patisserie to cancel out the torture of up downs. Once again proving I.love.carbs. I’ll admit it, the fact that my gym and this bakery were so close in vicinity created great temptation on my part. But after awhile, purchasing a warm, buttery croissant in my Lululemon just started to feel right. Croissant temptation is tricky. Does one neglect the graceful provisions of God through the croissant or resist the temptation to indulge? Although I'm weak in the knees for carbs, the reaction of the Savior of the world in His moment of great temptation is so different...

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Part 8: Manna in the Wilderness

Angel food cake is gross and thus feels like a negligent way to use the terms "angel food," especially in light of my study on the word "bread" and "manna" in the Bible. Moses said manna was food for the angels, bread from heaven, sacred bread, bread worthy of the tabernacle (where God's people would encounter and commune with him), the bread of testimony, the bread of presence. So excuse me, Angle food cake, when I scoff at your inferiority. 

Spiritual hunger can feel like we are in the wilderness and hangry with God, but thankfully God has a track record of making food for hungry wilderness wanderers like us.

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Part 7: Manna In the Wilderness

This section of our I.love.carbs bible study should have been the easiest for me to digest after months of study and contemplation, and yet it was the hardest. Turns out God highlighted so many savory truths about himself through my study on manna. I've been joking that I could have written all 16 lessons of this study on manna alone because its presence in the scriptures is so critically important to our spiritual diets. The Apostle Paul repurposes the concept of Old Testament manna in the New Testament giving the physical bread a spiritual application to our lives in 1 Corinthians 10:3-4. So today we are going to talk about why you and I might end up in a spiritual wilderness and a very common reaction to our hunger in a spiritual wilderness.

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Part 6: Unleavened to Feast

The last time I blogged, I left us with this question: Lord, what do you need to remove in my life so that I can savor your presence? Because God's richest provisions of his presence will always involve the removal of sin in our lives. If you are hungry for more of God, a healthy step to feasting on His presence is a fast from sin. 

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Part 5: Famine to Feast

Maybe you're hungry for more of God or suffering with spiritual hanger, or maybe you're so famished it's hard to imagine a reality when you feel satisfied again in God. I'm certain that by the power of the Holy Spirit, your study of the Feast of Unleavened Bread might be the spiritual appetizer you need to feast again on God's abiding presence. Thirty times bread is mentioned in the book of Exodus (depending on the translation you are reading) and most of them refer to the Feast of Unleavened Bread. 

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Part 4: Famished

The Genesis narratives read like the most dramatic scenarios reality TV has to offer. It's a good reminder that our crazy has never needed a script. We are wonderfully practiced at making a mess of our lives. So today, our focus will be on the relationship famine & bread have in the Old Testament through one of our faith fathers, Joseph.

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